Maybe You Should Talk to Someone with Lori Gottlieb

February 13, 2020

Today we’re excited to have Lori Gottlieb on the podcast. Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which is being adapted as a television series with Eva Longoria. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The Atlantic’s weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column and is the co-host of iHeart’s upcoming “Dear Therapists” podcast, produced by Katie Couric. She is also a TED speaker, a ​member of the Advisory Council for Bring Change to Mind, and advisor to the Aspen Institute. She is a sought-after expert in media such as The Today Show, Good Morning America, The CBS Early Show, CNN, and NPR’s “Fresh Air.” Learn more at LoriGottlieb.com or by following her @LoriGottlieb1 on Twitter.

In this episode we discuss:

  • The fundamental themes of human existence
  • Irvin Yalom’s influence on Lori Gottlieb
  • Why we feel isolated in our experiences
  • The loneliness crisis on college campuses
  • How the internet helps us numb
  • How to know when social media has become an addiction
  • Why happiness as a goal is a disaster
  • SBK analyzes Lori Gottlieb
  • Why we are often scared to do things that excite us
  • Why there is no “hierarchy of pain”
  • The hierarchy of pain and the social justice movement
  • Why is it so hard for us to change when we know what to do?
  • Why we don’t let ourselves be happy
  • The importance of self-compassion
  • The most important factor in the success of therapy
  • What makes for a boring patient?
  • Why feelings sometimes don’t care about facts
  • Common myths of therapy
  • “Part of us wants something and there’s another part of us that goes against the thing we want”
  • Why “our feelings need air”
  • How numbness is a state of being overwhelmed by too many feelings
  • The importance of seeing your own agency and the choices you have


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2 Responses to “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone with Lori Gottlieb”

  1. David Ranson says:

    Re episode 180 Become an emotion scientist

    I enjoyed this podcast. I work as a psychologist/behaviour support clinician in Western Australia supporting staff and people with disability in managing challenging behaviours. Individuals have intellectual disability and some ASD.
    I just am keen to find out whether Marc has had any involvement in supporting people with disability to develop emotional regulation, particularly for those who are non verbal? I am just keen to keep abreast with any innovative ideas in this field.
    PS I really enjoy your podcasts and topics, I find them very thought provoking on my bike ride home

  2. Yáskara says:

    This is my favorite episode till now! I’m a Brazilian psychology student, and this podcast give me more enthusiasm to learn.
    She brought really important reflections about subjectivity.

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