Today we’re excited to have Lori Gottlieb on the podcast. Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which is being adapted as a television series with Eva Longoria. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The Atlantic’s weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column and is the co-host of iHeart’s upcoming “Dear Therapists” podcast, produced by Katie Couric. She is also a TED speaker, a ​member of the Advisory Council for Bring Change to Mind, and advisor to the Aspen Institute. She is a sought-after expert in media such as The Today Show, Good Morning America, The CBS Early Show, CNN, and NPR’s “Fresh Air.” Learn more at LoriGottlieb.com or by following her @LoriGottlieb1 on Twitter.

In this episode we discuss:

• The fundamental themes of human existence
• Irvin Yalom’s influence on Lori Gottlieb
• Why we feel isolated in our experiences
• The loneliness crisis on college campuses
• How the internet helps us numb
• How to know when social media has become an addiction
• Why happiness as a goal is a disaster
• SBK analyzes Lori Gottlieb
• Why we are often scared to do things that excite us
• Why there is no “hierarchy of pain”
• The hierarchy of pain and the social justice movement
• Why is it so hard for us to change when we know what to do?
• Why we don’t let ourselves be happy
• The importance of self-compassion
• The most important factor in the success of therapy
• What makes for a boring patient?
• Why feelings sometimes don’t care about facts
• Common myths of therapy
• “Part of us wants something and there’s another part of us that goes against the thing we want”
• Why “our feelings need air”
• How numbness is a state of being overwhelmed by too many feelings
• The importance of seeing your own agency and the choices you have

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