How To Be Yourself with Ellen Hendriksen

by Scott Barry Kaufman, June 6, 2018

Today we have Dr. Ellen Hendriksen on the podcast. Dr. Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be there authentic selves through her award-winning Savvy Psychologist podcast, which has been downloaded over 5 million times, and at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. Her latest book is called “How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety.”

  • What is your real self?
  • What is social anxiety?
  • What is the opposite of social anxiety?
  • What’s the goal of therapy to treat social anxiety?
  • How to be comfortable when you are “caught being yourself”
  • The importance of self-compassion
  • The difference between introversion and social anxiety
  • Techniques to overcome social anxiety
  • The Orchid-Dandelion Hypothesis
  • The relationship between the highly sensitive person and openness to experience
  • The importance of going out and living your life first, and letting your confidence catch up
  • The importance of turning attention “inside out”
  • How perfectionism holds us back
  • The importance of “daring to be average”
  • The myth of “hope in a bottle”
  • Gender differences in the manifestation of social anxiety


5 Responses to “How To Be Yourself with Ellen Hendriksen”

  1. Dana says:

    This podcast came at a timely moment! Just yesterday I was reflecting on the origins of my difficulties with social anxiety and what I can do to thrive in spite of it!

    Thank you Scott for your dedication on this podcast and connecting with all of the experts interviewed, it is very meaningful to me especially during these serendipitous occurrences!

  2. Ina says:

    Enjoyed this episode a lot! Will definitely read the “How To Be Yourself” book, but also look deeper into the work of Karen Horney. After listening to your podcast, I always leave with unexpected insides and motivation to research the topic much deeper.
    Thank you Barry for this amazing podcast!

  3. Terri says:

    Hey Dana, you should also check out Dr. Hendrickson’s podcast, The Savvy Psychologist – her episodes usually contain practical tips and are pretty quick listens. She actually is quite savvy and the practical advice seems like it would be really helpful, particularly for people who suffer with anxiety.

    Hi SBK! You’re still my favourite.

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