“There can be no autonomy without the autonomy to choose, without coercion or constraint, or in spite of it, who our lovers will be.” — Wednesday Martin
Today we have Wednesday Martin on the podcast. Dr. Martin has worked as a writer and social researcher in New York City for more than two decades. The author of Stepmonster and the instant New York Times bestseller Primates of Park Avenue, she writes for the online edition of Psychology Today and her work has appeared in The New York Times and Time.com. Dr. Martin’s latest book is called “Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free.”
In this episode we discuss:
- How Wednesday tries to make the sex research “delicious and fun”
- How female infidelity is mired in so much misunderstanding
- How Millenial women are more sexually adventurous compared to Millennial men
- What’s the consensual non-monogamy movement?
- How we evolved to be “cooperative breeders”
- What is “female flexuality”?
- Why we need to stop pathologizing those who embrace non-monogamy
- How women are driving the polyamory movement
- The good reasons why monogamy is hard and the other options that exist
- How your attachment style and sociosexuality are linked to consensual non-monogamy
- Disagreeable women and sociosexuality
- Rethinking sex differences in the drive for sexual novelty
- Pornography viewing differences between men and women
- Common triggers of violence in relationships
- Rethinking the motivations underlying sex differences in cheating
- How better science can help us all have hotter sex