Julie Lythcott-Haims || How to Be an Adult

April 22, 2021

Today it’s great to chat with Julie Lythcott-Haims on the show. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. Julie is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, will be out in April 2021.


[1:32] How Julie defines “adulting”
[3:07] How the way we define adulthood has changed over time
[5:59] What is the “adult mindset”?
[8:00] Why Julie challenges the “right track” concept of adulthood
[15:07] Julie’s advice to those who want to take an unconventional path
[18:57] Julie’s advice to those struggling with questions of identity
[20:46] Julie’s encounters with racism and “othering”
[26:21] Julie’s promise of inclusivity and how she overcame her struggles
[29:40] Julie’s thoughts on self-acceptance and self-love
[33:22] How Julie collected inspiring stories from people for her book
[37:15] Julie’s advice to people who struggle to embrace outsiders
[40:17] How Julie ended up interviewing her Lyft driver for her book
[42:54] Julie’s reflections on intuition and her observational capacity
[45:43] “Life’s beautiful F-words”

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